How Will Smith’s Top 10 Rules for Success Has Helped Me Change My Mindset for Business
One day at my 9-5, I was beating myself up for not doing so many things that could grow my business. I was having a melt down about why things were going the way they were. I didn’t really have the time or the energy to take any additional tasks or projects but I was still beating myself up about not doing more. By the way, I didn’t always work in the salon full time. I’ve always had clients, but I worked. I used to be an accountant for a book publishing company.
Moving forward: One this day, I wanted to listen to something that was uplifting and motivating to get myself into better spirits. I forgot what I googled, but I came across this wonderful archive of success rules on Youtube so I decided to listen to them while I worked. There was one video that I have listened to and watched numerous of times since that day. It was the video of multiple interviews of Will Smith all curated to make one video called Will Smith’s Top 10 Rules for Success.
All credit goes to Evan Carmichael for helping me out this day because it immediately put me in such a better place mentally. It helps me on my lowest days, it helps me when I have way too much going on in my personal life, and it helps me when I am on a natural high from executing my goals. Here are my takeaways from the video from Will Smith’s interviews (you can watch at the end of this post):
Rule #1 - Don't Listen to "Them"
Evan Carmichael names this rule, “Don’t Listen to the Little Man”. The little man is that person who tries to tell you what you can’t do. It could be people who have never tried anything different in their life. Will Smith tells his young son that you have to protect your dream and if you want something, you go get it. Period.
This alone reminds me of the amount of negativity and doubt in the environment in which I grew up in. My parents were hard workers but it was the neighborhood, the teachers, the kids’ parents that were doubtful and unsupportive. This rule helps push me harder because I have something to prove to myself. I will not and I can not grow to think the way so many other thinks. I can’t let people and those types of thoughts consume me and the performance of my business.
Takeaway: Go get your dream. Ignore people who don’t believe and have faith in you.
Rule #2 - Where you are doesn’t matter. You are BECOMING.
This rule helps me on those days when I compare where I want to be to where I am. I will be brutally honest. Some days I question the pace that I am growing and if I am even making a difference in someone else’s life. Then I realize there’s a verb in my thought...growing. That’s an action word! Sometimes when we begin to compare where we are to where we are going, we forget that we are BECOMING the person we are meant to be.
Takeaway: There’s no need to get down about where you are now. You have to stay in the mindset that you are becoming! Repeat that to yourself every day. I am BECOMING.
Rule #3 - There’s power in making a choice
Truth be told; making a choice is the first step. I read a book long ago called Priceless Inspirations, by LaToya Wright. It was about her life story but what caught my attention was her message to take a try. She said nothing is wrong with trying. It’s just a try. Sometimes we look too deep into things like what bad things will happen if we do try. We forget about looking at the other half of that “what if”. What will happen if we don’t try? The power of making a choice, just one choice, will and can change our lives. We just have to make the choice and commit to it.
Will Smith teaches us to make a choice. Just decide who you’re going to be, what it’s going to be and how you’re going to be/do it. He says from that point, the universe will get out of our way. We are who we choose to be.
Takeaway: Create a plan of who you are going to be, how you’re going to be it, and what it’s going to be. Make the choice to stick to it until the universe get’s out of your way.
Rule #4 - Live in service
This rule is a deep one for me. It’s something I can relate to as a mother. Finding your purpose is essential to a healthy and happier life. Will Smith teaches that your mindset has to be in the right place. You have to know that if you don’t make certain decisions or the decisions you make, even as simple as waking up in the morning, someone else’s life will drastically change or be affected. That’s your purpose. To know that someone else may suffer if you don’t make a decision is your purpose. You have to live in service. Live in service to your family, to your business, and to the world. This is, in his words, “ is joy”.
This is meaningful to life period. Find your joy. Find your purpose by understanding that your decisions affect other people. My mindset with business has changed since I started Strategist Cafe. It’s shifted to a complete serving mindset because I truly want to help those people who feel stuck or who feel like there’s no way out of their situation. There’s a way!
Takeaway: Think about why you started your business, how it will change your life for the better, and who it will affect if you don’t push harder! Remember that you live in service to whatever means the most to you. Go back to those thoughts anytime you stray away.
Rule #5 - Be Great
Will Smith explains that being great CAN be that easy. We naturally look for complexities within our situation and it doesn’t have to be that complex. It may be a natural reaction to think that we have to have chaos in order to understand a greater purpose, but this is not always the case. Being great is not about being special. We all can be great!
Takeaway: It’s very simple. Believe in who you want to be and start there. It can be that easy. Remember: It’s a CHOICE.
Rule #6 - Be Committed
Commit! The most powerful word that I hear with everything I do. You have to make a commitment. It’s the road to success. It’s going to get hard but it’s structured by who you are.
Takeaway: It goes back to making a choice! Make a choice to commit. Stay loyal and faithful to yourself. This will take you to the road to success!
Rule #7 - Don’t be outworked
This rule is not about comparison. It’s not about what another person has or how well another person is doing. The entire point of this rule is: Don’t Give Up. We hear it all the time and that’s because it’s true. Will Smith uses the analogy of a treadmill. The other person may be more interesting, sexier, or smarter than he is, but if both get on a treadmill one of two things will happen:
#1 - The other person is getting off first.
#2 - He (Will Smith) is going to die on it!
Either way, he will NOT give up! He explains that the main difference between people who are more successful than others is strictly hustle and seized opportunities. I realized some time ago that I needed to blog more often to increase brand awareness and traffic. I started out blogging once per week. Shortly after, I increased it to twice per week and I will increase it to three times per week now. If you want to build an audience or name for yourself, you have to make a choice, stick to the commitment, and stay consistent until you force people to know you and your business!
Takeaway: No matter who comes along or what they have that’s better than yours. You can’t give up and you have to hustle hard everyday!
Rule #8 - Improve your skills
In the words of Will Smith, “Talent is natural. Skill is developed by working on your craft.” You have to study and dedicate yourself to be better everyday! This is so important. You have to keep an open mindset and want to learn from other people. We are all teachers. We all are in different places and are on different levels with our businesses. This rule to continue to improve skills is the key to our growth. Not our talents alone.
Takeaway: We have to build and develop a stronger skill set so that our natural talent grows to its full potential.
Rule #9 - Be Motivated By Fear
Will Smith hates being scared to do something. We can all adapt this motivational tactic. In order to conquer fear, we have to run towards it. Here’s another example about making a choice. We either let fear control us or we run towards it so that we are always in control.
Takeaway: Whatever scares you to death, do that.
Rule #10 - Be Amazing at what you do
OMG you guys! I was in tears with #10. If you can’t view the video, it was the episode on The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air when Will’s father showed up after so many years and promised him to take him on the road only to chicken out at the last minute. Will is extremely upset and he expresses to his Uncle Phil that he is going to be better than him. This scene takes the cake on Evan Carmichael’s curation of Will Smith’s interviews.
Takeaway: It’s so hard to accept hardships in life but you have to absolutely keep pushing no matter how hard it hurts.All of these rules continuously change my headspace when those little thoughts of doubt try to creep in. It keeps me motivated and it keeps me stable with the journey of my business. I hope, if not all, just one of these rules has helped you see a bigger and better picture for your purpose and for your future.
Which one of these rules meant the most to you? I would love for your to share in the comments.